"Thought are things and they occupy space in your mind "

Many times we go through our closets and we throw out those things that either we do not fit or just do not correlate with the present time and styles. We throw out that sweater that an old boyfriend gave us just to get rid of the memories , we get rid of those high heeled boots that a 20 year us used to wear because it just looks and feels ridiculous for us to wear as a 40 year old. we go through the garage and get rid of old toys and junk that serve no purpose other than to take up space and hold on to a memory. We even trade in older cars for no other reason than to get a "NEW " more current car with new gadgets . So why do we hold on to old hurts, memories  and baggage for dear life and allow them to take up much needed space in our hearts and minds cluttering up the space that we occupy in our temple preventing any new experiences to come an inhibit our being? If we do not let go of the past and make room for Happiness,Joy and Love to come there just will not be room . Have you ever went to a restaurant on a Friday night and there was a line and wait of 2 hours and yet next door was a great restaurant and it was not as busy? The food was no better  and no cheaper. Would you really stand there for 2 hours or did you simply go on and move on to the restaurant that was available, free and convenient . What if you waited 1 1/2 hours of that 2 only to find out that it closed a 1/2 hour ago and although the food was great you missed it because you were over at the other restaurant complaining about the wait yet not moving .

Well a bad relationship or holding on to resentments from a bad relationship are exactly the same thing.

While you are in a bad relationship or mourning and complaining about the bad relationship . Time still keeps moving , people are bypassing you and you create an atmosphere within your being that is dark and gloomy and negative and you will attract the very thing that you do not want to you .If you want happiness you must demand it . Not from the person you are with but from yourself . You must know what you want .Visualize it . live it , breath it . taste it and believe it  and lastly you must already KNOW you have it ...Stop complaining about what you don't have.If the person you are with is not giving you what you want or deserve , IT IS NOT THEIR FAULT , IT'S YOURS ! Stop expecting the person to change who they are .Stop expecting them to be a different person .It's up to you to determine your fate .Stop putting your happiness in someone else's hands and demand better from yourself .Stop punishing that person and yourself for not being what you want . Make room for the happiness and the person who is supposed to be there , the person who does fit and is meant for the you at your current age and if it is meant to be they are still in style because TRUE LOVE does not go out of style and if your holding on to resentments LET IT GO if the relationship did not work ,mourn it properly and bury it .You do not hold on to dear loved ones who pass , you do not walk around town with dead pets on your back do you .Let go of that dead relationship and set yourself free . Letting go does not mean that you are saying it is ok that you hurt me. Forgiveness is not condoning the behavior. Forgiveness is not for the other person . Set yourself free. Simply letting go of the baggage will make you feel lighter and happier. and then you can move on quicker and with ease. Open that room up for someone else . The only person you are hurting by holding on to anger is the person who has to carryall that extra weight around.
Set your self free and enjoy your living . Declare your happiness and clean out that closet !!